It’s very tempting to get back together with your ex. You may have had your bad moments, but there were good times as well. And there was that awesome sex.
Before you rekindle your love for your ex, you should think about your motives for wanting to get back together. Do you want to resume dating him because you feel lonely or because it’s too hard to get over him? Does he deserve a second chance? If you want to date him again because you’re having a hard time getting over him, then it’s probably for the wrong reasons. If you really think that he’s the one, the love of your life, and deserves another chance well…. Read on.
If getting back together is starting to sound like a good idea, you need to think about why you broke up in the first place and if those issues can be resolved. This involves some discussion with your ex. If your relationship is on a constant on-off status, it’s time to end that rollercoaster for good either by calling it quits and ending the relationship permanently or by finding a better solution than the last one and sticking to it.
If your ex was abusive, had a crippling addiction, or acted violently towards you, you should stay away unless he went through some extensive rehab. Abuse and addiction often involve vicious cyclical patterns of behavior that are extremely difficult to break.
If your issues weren’t so extreme, you both need to think about what needs to change to make it work this time. And are you willing to change and/or give him another chance to change? You may want to take things slowly to see if you’re both committed enough to repair the relationship and resume dating. If the commitment is not there and the change isn’t happening, then it’s time to break up for good.